Confidence down? Feeling unattractive and unlovable? You’re right, you’re the problem.
The good news is, you’re also the solution.
Being attractive, confident and ‘the kind of person others like to be around’ takes some
effort. No one is born that way, it’s a choice – no – a series of choices made consistently
every day until they’re second nature.
If you’re struggling with self-esteem or you’re feeling about as desirable as a dropped sausage, go through our checklist to see how you can help get your mojo back.
Clothes
Fit without being too snug or too baggy.
Look clean and smell clean.
If you’re unsure stick to complimentary basics.
If your current rotation of clothes is feeling tired, treat yourself to a t-shirt or two. Try a block colour that goes with jeans/casual trousers.
Need some inspiration? Check out our fashion page for bald guys.
Posture
Shoulders back.
Nice and upright.
Take bulky items out of your pockets.
Slouching makes you look disinterested and feel tired. Having awareness of your posture helps keep you present and looking engaged/interesting.
Countenance
Facial hair – trimmed, oiled (if required).
Check for stray or mutant ear, nose, eyebrow hairs.
Try not to scowl or knit your eyebrows.
Resting bitch face is a bloke thing too and it’ll make you look aggressive and unapproachable. If a happy face is too hard to achieve, relax your face and try to turn the edges of your lips up a little.
Personal hygiene
Effective deodorant on.
Teeth clean/breath fresh.
Eating a variety of healthy, nutritious food.
Drinking 2 litres of water per day.
If you can smell yourself – be it your pits or your breath – others can smell it 100 times more. Taking the small amount of time to look after yourself will help make you feel worthwhile. Promise!
Mentality
Get a minimum of 6 hours sleep (preferably 8).
Stay present.
Make eye contact and smile.
Start a new healthy habit.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, negative self-talk can creep in. If you’re not into journaling, meditation or mindfulness, find a quick, simple action like taking two-three deep breaths or scrunching up your toes that bring awareness to a certain part of your body. It can be an effective stop-gap.
Remember, our thoughts are like serving suggestions on a box of cornflakes. If they’re unhelpful, ignore them and remind yourself of how awesome you are.
